Disclaimer: If this term is in use elsewhere on the internet, in social circles, etc and possessing of a different meaning, I don't care. I didn't look it up. This is my little corner of the universe, and I will reappropriate as I see fit.
I started using the term "Gray Goth" because gray is a point between black and white. Like most people, I don't fit securely into just one subculture, but Goth is probably the one I have the most ties to outside of Geek. I wear an awful lot of black. I have a deep love for Depeche Mode, The Smiths, Sisters of Mercy, Covenant, Wolfsheim, and so on. I like old cemeteries, ivy shrouded mansions, and abandoned castles. I have a fascination with vampires. Halloween is my favorite holiday. Walking out into sunlight has made me hiss on more than one occasion. And I'm pale.
I know there are a number of stereotypical items being thrown around in the above paragraph, but that's kind of the point. How do we identify a subculture? Well, generally, by its stereotype. The above paragraph is also just a lot of things that describe me.
Now for the tidbits that make people want to revoke my Goth card. I have an obsession with pink these days that terrifies some of my friends. That obsession lends itself to Candy Shoppe pastels in general (so can include mint, lavender, cotton candy blue, and so on). Pink is just my favorite. I pretty much live in blue jeans. Not that I wouldn't love them to be black jeans, but I challenge you to find a good pair of boot cut black jeans in my size for less than $100 (boot cut is the bit you'll have a problem with). Much as I would love to pretend I dress like this all the time:
|The Anne Jane dress from http://www.gothikas.com.|
you're far more likely to find me in blue jeans and a black t-shirt with some graphic relating to a video game or comic. Which is what I'm wearing right now, actually. I only dig out my eyeliner for special occasions. I used to go to raves with Beasty back when we were younger. I have an equally deep love for Sting, U2, Madonna (90's to early 2000's), BT, David Guetta, Florence + The Machine, Cindy Lauper, and so on. My second favorite holiday is Christmas/Solstice/whatever and I adore The Nutcracker. My favorite work of fiction is probably Lewis Carroll's Alice's Adventures in Wonderland, and I'm more than a little fixated on how people have interpreted the work and all the different stories, games, movies, and so on inspired by it. I love spotted toadstools, and whimsy, and pastel rainbow unicorns.
In short, I'm not hardcore. I'm not even softcore. I'm just kind of hanging out on the fringes. And I'm okay with that. Most of my friends seem okay with that as well. It does, however, leave me lacking a short description of my preferred aesthetic. I bandied around the phrase Gray Goth in a conversation with a friend some days back, and they laughed saying it was perfect. So what the heck. We'll run with it.